bonnie deserved better

September 10, 2018 — Leave a comment

This is a dress I wore in 2011 for a NAM pageant.

For reasons not related to this dress I did not win. What I wanted to point out is this.

This is the dress Bonnie wore to Caroline’s wedding and if you noticed it’s nearly the exact same as my dress from 2011.

While I didn’t hate this dress I never really liked it. It was mostly functional. It was the only dress I could find that fit my boobs (they’re quite large) and didn’t drag on the floor (a rule from the pageant).

When I saw this dress on Bonnie I didn’t feel any different. While she is significantly more beautiful than me not even she could make this dress look anything other than functional. It’s a pretty dress but not one that wows anyone. It reminds me of her prom dress.

It’s pretty on her and functional as a prom dress but it’s very muted especially compared the other prom dresses in that episode.

It not news that they put Bonnie in muted clothes but this is season 8, her wardrobe had actually improved by this point. However something I noticed while making my survey is that her wardrobe actually got worse in season 8 and the fact that I actually own one of the dresses they put her in is proof of that.

I’ve mentioned many, many times before how this frustrates me I just thought I would add to that long list because every corner I turn I find something new in terms of how they screwed over Bonnie.

Why I’m Not Big On Klaroline

August 2, 2018 — Leave a comment

scorpio-karma:

You know I realized the reason why I really don’t like Klaroline us not really due to the pairing itself. I have no moral qualms with the abuse of it because it’s literally impossible with any TVD ship and I really don’t like the idea of quantifying abuse. If I hate one ship due to abuse I have to hate them all including my favorite ship, Bonkai, because abuse is abuse, plain and simple it’s terrible in every form and saying one is worse than the other does nothing more than trivialize serious matters because it wasn’t as bad. It’s unfortunate that certain things have to be overlooked, but I do feel that it works better in Kai and Klaus’ case due to their roles as antagonists however I still don’t consider them excuses. 

The reason I don’t like Klaroline is because I now can’t help but think about the role they play in the oppression of Tyler and Bonnie. I used to like Klaroline, hell I even used to like Delena (but that got ruined for a whole slew of other reasons that didn’t even require deeper thought) because I used to be a very casual viewer of TVD, it wasn’t really a show I took that seriously so I pretty much took what ever the spoon fed me until season 5 when as a casual viewer I couldn’t even stomach it and had to stop watching. To this day I still haven’t seen the entirety of that season. But back to my point, now I really don’t like Klaroline because I can’t separate the reason why it’s there to begin with and the characters it screwed over with it’s existence.

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I don’t watch TO, but given the posts I’ve been seeing regarding the series finale tonight I feel like this can add to the pettiness.

July 6, 2018 — Leave a comment

fictionxlover:

I feel like Plec is anti witch and werewolf cuz she makes them suffer the most out of the supernatural beings…

I don’t think she hates witches and werewolves just POC’s. They were pretty much the only supernatural creatures with any kind of “diversity” and it’s no accident that they suffer the most. It’s also no accident that on the POC’s out of those two categories actually suffer and are only used as on it devices.

It’s just one of the many ways Plec demonstrates her racism.

May 15, 2018 — Leave a comment

aryasmartells:

scorpio-karma:

What would there even be in a Bamon spin-off?

Who said that? 😂

I mean Damon went off to live happily ever after with Elena and he is human now…his story is over tbh he got the girl lmao.

With Bonnie she is a witch and has more story to tell. Also, yeah with Kai he is a witch and part of Gemini coven so that gives more room for story so he could be involved plus he is Bonnie’s enemy and their is history.

I don’t remember who said it but they said “we’ve been asking for a Bamon/Bennett witches spin-off for years” and I couldn’t help buy think “who would watch that?” Damon does not have enough presence to be relevant in a spin off with Bonnie.

While I will agree that Bonnie has load of potential to be the main character of a spin-off and has more story to tell than all of the other characters combined but I honestly feel that a lot of current canon would need to be redone and retconned for it to work because by season 8 they royally fucked up her character.

For starters she’s the last remaining Bennett witch which does have it’s own interesting prospect but at the same time it would end up just being a lot of what we’ve already seen on TVD–her figuring shit out on her own. The only person who can help is an absentee mother who continues to be absentee.

“Love of her life” Enzo watching her for eternity to the point that she can’t move on. That’s how she’s written canonically, literally to the point that she can’t have any romantic relationships anymore even after we don’t see her.

Her season 8 characterization as Elena 2.0, that one is more fixable as canon did allow her to get somewhat back to normal but only when she lost Enzo and became the magic negro again.

Like for me to watch her spin-off I’d need to go way back in season one and right a lot of the wrongs and actually develop her character, but that would exactly be the spin-off, retconning Plec and the damage done there because the thing about Bonnie is that she’s mostly just wasted potential in order to like her you have to see past the shitty writing.

May 11, 2018 — Leave a comment

So did I find the mother of all posts

So the other night when I definitely should have been asleep since I had an important appointment the next day (it was at 1:00 so it was all good), I jumped into a time machine of tumblr posts all from the Kennett controversy during season 3–when everyone’s suspicions about the racism in TVD were confirmed. I won’t bore you with the details of how I went down the rabbit hole instead I’ll just share the rabbit hole with the posts from then because it was quite fascinating to see what the fandom used to be like that early. Though I watched the show I didn’t a) have a tumblr, and b) engage with the fandom, and I gotta say it was much worse then although I guess slightly better because it was less rude anon’s on your inbox and more blatant posts in the wrong tag which is only better because you could trace who these people were.

Anyway if you don’t know what the controversy from then was about here’s the original encounter:

That then led to this passive aggressive apology and pretty much blew up on her face.

I think one of the things worth noting, which we kind of all knew is that the controversy was never really about Kennett, a ship at the time that wasn’t that popular, it was a crack ship until Plec made this statement and it became more than a crack ship, it became the embodiment of everything wrong with the show because of Plec’s distaste for Bonnie fans shipping her with anyone besides who she wrote to be with Bonnie and even more so her rude response that brought up a ship that wasn’t even mentioned. There’s a reason why this was such an eye opener–while people had their suspicions this is what essentially outed her as a racist.

So to start I found the post from the person who actually sent the tweet that Plec responded to:

Other responses to Plec’s tweet: although it hould be noted that Plec deleted the tweet after she realized the shit storm she brought on herself and it still didn’t save her.

Cancelling Matt Davis:

The Boycott: 

The Fandom’s reaction to the boycott:

Lost Viewers:

False hope:

Discorse: 

Anyway I may edit this later and add more links if I go back into the rabbit hole, but damn was this a fun blast from the past–it was really cool seeing exactly when everything completely collapsed for Plec with Bonnie fans and honestly never recovered. The only thing that stopped the boycott was Kat having to personally ask her fans to not which I hope she was well compensated for that (even though we know she wasn’t). 

May 5, 2018 — Leave a comment

ricks2ccurls:

As a bisexual black woman, I find it odd seeing straight, white women in fandom headcanon black women as a wlw or, if she’s canon bisexual, focus so intently on their attraction to women. There’s not necessarily an issue with that in itself but I’ve seen a lot of “keep her as far away as possible from the white male fav” reasoning disguised as shipping. It’s happened with canon straight characters (Michonne, Bonnie Bennett) as well as canon bi characters (Valkyrie, Toni Topaz). And in the case of black bi women, there’s the addition of fandom implicitly or explicitly erasing their bisexuality. I don’t think shipping or fandom should be gatekept but it’s worth questioning the intent sometimes. In this case, are you using sexuality to remove a perceived undesirable/undeserving threat or because you see black women as too masculine/dominant/aggressive to be with a man?

This usually gets me the most with Bonnie when some people ship her with Elena. Her Magic negro/slave role which she mostly plays toward Elena is interpreted instead as unrequited love which I find worse because in either case it’s not reciprocal. It’s always Bonnie willing die for her and Elena saying she is but never following through. Their relationship in the context of friendship is bad enough, no need to add romance to that and fuck it up farther especially since it gives them a convenient excuse to ignore the anti-blackness of the whole situation.

April 26, 2018 — Leave a comment

thelazygirl30:

It’s ridiculous how fans are still getting excited that Damon chose Bonnie and left Elena to ‘die’ and is still letting Elena ‘die.’

First off, Elena is not dead. She’s just taking a long ass nap and let’s be real, if actual death was in the scenario, Damon would have chosen Elena. Sorry to be blunt but *shrugs* that’s how it is.

Second, to even get excited and fawn over Damon choosing Bonnie as it was the most amazing thing is stupid af. It’s a non choice. Save Bonnie. End of. When you apply it to TVD context, Kai’s supposedly ‘irredeemable’ spell is incredibly lame. Damon is seeing Elena again, he’s a vampire, 60 years is gonna be nothing to him. And can’t they all see Elena in their dreams? And it’s fucking degrading on Bonnie’s character after everything she’s been through to make a big deal out of it and give Damon credit when it is not due (but then again what else is new)

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I’m in a bitter mood today…this show is shit and I miss bonkai. 

I remember a long while ago there was this question that asked “If you were Damon who would you choose?”

I answered: Me personally Bonnie because I don’t give a shit about Elena. As Damon still Bonnie BECAUSE HE DOESN’T LOSE ANYTHING.

He was essentially just waiting for his girlfriend to get back from summer camp. While I can’t be outraged at him choosing Bonnie, I am/was outraged by the entire situation because that was the dumbest revenge plot ever, and dumbest character exit. And to top it all off the people thought Bonnie either owed Damon and Elena something for their trouble, or that this one simple act makes them even with her.

NO, NEITHER OF THEM LOST ANYTHING!!!! Bonnie repeatedly lost everything because of them and continued to lose everything.

What do you think of Bonnie x Prof. Shane? I know a lot of people were sqwicked out by it, especially since he turns out to be another guy using her, but had they gone the romantic route in s4 do you think it’d have been good? I always thought it’d be a great pairing for her, but not a lasting one. Like she would learn a lot from it which is why I wanted it to happen but weirdly so it could end. I thought it could serve in her development especially since he was written in for her.

April 10, 2018 — Leave a comment

leianaberrie:

If
you remove the fact that he was another guy using her, and just left him being
Sheila’s former protégé and he was just a human whose only agenda was his
interest/fascination in the supernatural – yes, that would have been a good ‘growth’
relationship for Bonnie. Thinking about it as I type, this ship has a lot going
for it. For one, as you said, he was one of the few characters written for
Bonnie – although you can argue that he was more specifically written as a
pathway for Bonnie to get her magic in order to service Elena (the Cure) and
he had a pre-existing relationship with Sheila which would have been a great
pathway for Bonnie to explore her history. If you want to go meta, there’s an
analogy there about contemporary POCs needing to access their own history via
White men. It would have been interesting to see the show use Bonnie and Shane’s
relationship to navigate/explore that. Much like it would have been interesting
to use the tomb vampires to navigate/explore property theft/exploitation/rewriting
history and Bonnie’s Bennett history with Mystic Falls to explore how white
people erase the contributions of pocs, specifically black people in history.
Even the usually squicky older!Professor/student hang-ups are averted since
Shane wasn’t her teacher or in a position of authority over her. Furthermore, if
you take out the unnecessarily humiliating dead-wife-and-son reveal, you can
even argue that Bonnie was using Shane, not the other way around since she
wanted access to forbidden magic and he was the means to do that.  

I
won’t have wanted it as endgame for sure. He’s not pretty enough (lol) and he’s
not powerful enough. Bonnie would have eventually outgrown him, and moved on to
something bigger and more bad-ass.

It
kind of goes to show that the storylines they start Bonnie off with aren’t
necessarily bad. It’s the way they choose to execute them that sucks. Like when
you think about it, what value did Shane’s dead-wife-and-son add to the
storyline? Nothing. He might as well have been motivated by mundane curiosity/
fascination with magic. There was absolutely no need for him to have been
written that way but to shit on Bonnie.

I think the dead wife and kid was supposed to add to the cult mentality Shane had towards Silas, but they’re not used consistently enough for it to have that effect. He has one conversation with his dead wife and that convinces him to be a murderer??? And even more so without that one conversation we really wouldn’t have known otherwise that he was grieving these people.

For me what I really liked about Shane is how separate he was from the whole MFG. Like you noted the development she could have had, but even better it was development that the MFG couldn’t invade in on–in fact they shouldn’t have had. When his plots start coinciding with Damon and Elena it’s very unnatural. I always complain about the fact that in 4×04 neither Elena or Damon should have been there, they had absolutely no reason to be at Whitmore other than to invade Bonnie’s development which is a consistent problem. I liked the possibility of her going off and doing her own thing but we know that was never going to happen and if did she’d just be off screen for a handful of episodes (which she was). 

I’m noticing a pattern…

April 9, 2018 — Leave a comment

scorpio-karma:

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@bonkaiqueen

Didn’t you hear? Clearly this:

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is the chemistry we all should have been looking out for in season 6, not this:

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And clearly we’re delusional for thinking otherwise:

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After all why would we want the psychopathic Bonnie lover with Bonnie, she clearly belongs with the guy who’s never taken a second glance at her.