I usually walk everywhere with my headphones on, but I had them in my bag and I was reading a book on my phone instead (I do that when the foot traffic is light). A young Latina was coming down the street as I was coming up the avenue, and when she got to the corner a few paces ahead of me, she turned to walk in the direction I was going. We were traveling at the same speed, but since she was like ten paces ahead and it’s bright outside in the middle of the day, I didn’t feel the need to fall back or slow down to give her more space. At night, I try not to walk too close behind women just so they don’t feel like I’m any sort of threat.
We got to a corner and this dude standing outside of the bodega was like, “Slow down mama where you goin? You don’t have to work today, you can stop and speak.”
She didn’t break her stride. “I’m going to the gym.” The Walk sign was on, so I didn’t break mine either.
A block later, a young guy was coming toward us on the sidewalk riding his bike.
“What’s good shorty?”
She didn’t respond.
“Well you was lookin, you can say something, stuck up bitch.”
We kept walking.
In the middle of the next block, an older man was walking toward us and he put on a friendly smile and said, “Smile young lady, it’s a beautiful day.”
I don’t know if she smiled, but we kept walking. She went into the gym and I kept on toward where I was going thinking about how that was just five minutes of her day. How many other blocks of five minutes are just like that?
Only one of them was truly aggressive. The other two guys seemed nice enough and it felt more like a pleasant compliment. It felt like the kind of thing a guy says who argues with women online when they say, “We’re not all bad guys. We can’t even compliment women? We can’t even say something nice?”
No. You really can’t. I was annoyed in that five minutes and I just happened to be walking behind her with no headphones on. Can you imagine those five minutes over and over every day of your life? Nobody wants to be spoken to by strangers day in and day out forever regardless of what they’re saying.
So no. You can’t say anything. The quality of your life has not decreased because you aren’t allowed to say nice things to strange women on the sidewalk, but your silence greatly increases the quality of hers. So just be quiet, and let her go where she’s going.
julie plec is really calling herself a feminist for breaking up haylijah after trump won for what he did without control over his actions and while i understand that,
1. why did it take donald trump winning for julie to realise “hey i should stop romanticising abuse and glorifying misogyny” after 8+3 seasons of that shit
2. she wrote the tvd ending well after the election result and it still featured damon salvatore, a rapist who has abused every character on the show especially the female characters, get called “the better man” and live a full and happy life with everything he ever wanted, find peace and have the only on screen endgames (delena and defan)… while her female characters (other than elena) were miserable in the end and male characters who were respectful and kind were dead
3. in the finale she still baited klaroline, the most abusive relationship on her shows, where the guy tried to kill her/assaulted her/almost had sex with her without her consent MULTIPLE TIMES. and this ship unlike delena or haylijah was never reciprocated and was just an unstable 1000 year old man stalking an uninterested teen. and hours after the finale she tweeted “caroline will find an inappropriate way to pay klaus back for his generosity” (for money she never asked for), a tweet so disgusting that the actor who plays klaus himself said it sounded like she was calling caroline a hooker. and she baited klaroline twice in the same interview she called herself a woke feminist for ~doing better for women now that trump won~ (receipts below)
4. “but your conscience can’t advocate for that kind of violence”
klaroline:
julie now:
delena:
julie now:
you can keep your convenient white feminism julie, we all know you’re a bigot and more than happy to run the most socially irresponsible shows with the most twisted messages to young girls just for fanservice and views. you didn’t give a fuck about women then and you sure as hell don’t now.
Can we talk about how ALL THE MEN sat there and let that woman be harassed while ever woman in earshot called his as out and finally one knocked him the fuck out.
YES SHE TTG I FUCKS WITH HER
i want her victory lines to be used in the next mortal kombat game
YES
YESSSS I LOVE YOU GIRL
“Freedom of speech” – doesn’t make it okay to harass a stranger. “I’m a man, respect me” – woman with the beer bottle gave him aaaaall the respect he earned here. Fuck that dickwad, I hope the glass shards prettied up his ugly mug and made him blind, idgaf how petty that makes me. And those dudes who sat there and did nothing can get fucked too.
He’s obviously an asshole, but I’m more concerned about the people who just sat there and let this man harass that woman. Silence is a form of communication and by staying silent they were communicating that they agree with his statements which is terrifying.
POC of TVD 